HE SAID: When should you un-friend your ex on Facebook?

Ah Facebook, the place by which all life's important moments are sited and judged. Personally, I could not disagree more about this whole topic -- since when did a website trump personal interaction or the intentional lack of?

Whether it's breakups or post awkward hookups, my thoughts don't immediately jump to how quickly I need to delete them from Facebook. Male and female reaction to such a thing can either be extremely different or exactly the same, depending on the individual, but the system by which a guy reacts is pretty uniform.

When push comes to shove, guys will either A.) Just get pissed B.) Go out and make an empowered effort to "forget" about that person and move on,  or  C.) All of the above. Essentially, the point I'm trying to make is that in a male state of mind, Facebook is probably the last thing we think of when faced with the idea of a breakup. 

I've never known of a guy contemplating how to attempt to further degrade their former significant other by depriving them of looking at their photos and status updates. If anything, you want keep them as friends just to show how much better off you really are. The more you think about it, if that is what you're looking to do, keeping them as a friend only gives you a greater opportunity to show them up and make them think of how big of a mistake they may have made.

As someone who has been on the receiving end of the whole "defriending" and being blocked situation, I honestly didn't even know until someone made an issue out of it. Even then, like most guys, I really didn't care at all because at that moment I had already initiated point "B" up top. Don't get me wrong, after a breakup, no one wants to constantly be reminded of the other person as their photos and junk seem to be coming up in front of your face almost every two minutes.

The point that I'm trying to push is that making such a big issue out of Facebook raises the importance and priority of a website over the importance of how you handle your own social life in the real world. Does deleting someone as a friend off Facebook really make a difference even if you make an effort to never talk to that person ever again?

The entire Facebook friend thing is ridiculous in its own right anyway. I'm willing to bet everyone has hundreds of people they have barely, if not ever really spoken to seriously. That being said, you're more so acquaintances with at least 70 percent of the people on that site, thus pretty much zapping any kind of importance one could try to attach to these online artificial friendships. Facebook was designed to aid in the interaction of people, not take its place.

So if you want to attempt to erase a bad breakup from your Facebook life go ahead, but don't make it more important than actually removing that person from your real life. That being said, we have all heard the quote, "an ex is an ex for a reason" and Facebook or not, the genius behind these words of wisdom cannot be discounted.