2008 Woodie Awards
She Said: Five tips to a perfect relationship
Alexandra Pohevitz
Issue date: 4/17/08 Section: He Said/She Said
Relationships.
No one said they were easy. College is the time to live it up, party, make friends and make mistakes for that matter. So where can a significant other fit in?
If you insist on being linked to these type of things during those "wild years," here are some simple tips to help smooth things out.
1. Be ready to commit. I'm not saying you need to have a ring ready or baby names picked out, but know what you are getting yourself into. It's not fair for you or your partner if you are only giving them half of the effort.
2. Communication. If you're the type of person to hold everything in until you explode, maybe you should hold off on dating for a little while. Talking things over instead of screaming or straying to someone else can make all the difference.
3. Intimacy. I'm not promoting or condoning pre-marital sex, however, I think it is extremely important that you and partner have a discussion before things get over-whelming. Knowing what each person expects can help situations before problems arise.
4. Choose your battles wisely. In any relationship, good or bad, there will be things that may annoy or upset you. That being said, is it really worth a three-day silent treatment over something as small as an unanswered text message? Knowing the differences between big and little issues can help keep both individual sane.
5. Trust. It's Saturday night and you're stressed from the week, why wouldn't you love dancing like a fool to an overplayed song? The key here is to know when you are over stepping boundaries. If you would be mad if you found out your boy/girlfriend was acting the way you are, than stop. Don't stop yourself from having fun, but know that you are going out holding on to someone else's feelings.
No one said they were easy. College is the time to live it up, party, make friends and make mistakes for that matter. So where can a significant other fit in?
If you insist on being linked to these type of things during those "wild years," here are some simple tips to help smooth things out.
1. Be ready to commit. I'm not saying you need to have a ring ready or baby names picked out, but know what you are getting yourself into. It's not fair for you or your partner if you are only giving them half of the effort.
2. Communication. If you're the type of person to hold everything in until you explode, maybe you should hold off on dating for a little while. Talking things over instead of screaming or straying to someone else can make all the difference.
3. Intimacy. I'm not promoting or condoning pre-marital sex, however, I think it is extremely important that you and partner have a discussion before things get over-whelming. Knowing what each person expects can help situations before problems arise.
4. Choose your battles wisely. In any relationship, good or bad, there will be things that may annoy or upset you. That being said, is it really worth a three-day silent treatment over something as small as an unanswered text message? Knowing the differences between big and little issues can help keep both individual sane.
5. Trust. It's Saturday night and you're stressed from the week, why wouldn't you love dancing like a fool to an overplayed song? The key here is to know when you are over stepping boundaries. If you would be mad if you found out your boy/girlfriend was acting the way you are, than stop. Don't stop yourself from having fun, but know that you are going out holding on to someone else's feelings.
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