2008 Woodie Awards
She Said: Can you compromise yourself for another?
Kate Brindisi
Issue date: 4/10/08 Section: He Said/She Said
A relationship requires compromises from both individuals involved.
You go to their choice restaurant or go see the movie that they really want to see but that you could definitely deal without watching. So when does compromising become too much? How much compromising should be done? How much compromise is fair?
Both individuals should be conscious of the others wants and needs, and one person should not always be compromising their wants, needs or interests all of the time. After a while this sort of behavior will definitely take a toll on the relationship.
So how do you perfect the art of compromising? You must be patient. Not a quality that I usually possess but sometimes you must bite the bullet. You have to look past your own wants and really acknowledge that you decision might not always affect only you and that because of this both individual's opinions must be taken into consideration.
Would you not dress a certain way or not go somewhere just because your significant other doesn't like the idea? Well that just is not for me. I don't want to be with someone who asks me to compromise who I am. If they really care about you they will accept who you are right off the bat no questions asked. If they can't be happy with that then clearly they will never be happy with you.
The word compromise comes up quite often in the discussion of relationships. You both must conform to each other's schedules and likes and dislikes. And that is fine until it becomes work. You shouldn't have to constantly be conforming to the others demands.
If one person is not willing to compromise for the other, then they probably aren't worth your time and effort
You go to their choice restaurant or go see the movie that they really want to see but that you could definitely deal without watching. So when does compromising become too much? How much compromising should be done? How much compromise is fair?
Both individuals should be conscious of the others wants and needs, and one person should not always be compromising their wants, needs or interests all of the time. After a while this sort of behavior will definitely take a toll on the relationship.
So how do you perfect the art of compromising? You must be patient. Not a quality that I usually possess but sometimes you must bite the bullet. You have to look past your own wants and really acknowledge that you decision might not always affect only you and that because of this both individual's opinions must be taken into consideration.
Would you not dress a certain way or not go somewhere just because your significant other doesn't like the idea? Well that just is not for me. I don't want to be with someone who asks me to compromise who I am. If they really care about you they will accept who you are right off the bat no questions asked. If they can't be happy with that then clearly they will never be happy with you.
The word compromise comes up quite often in the discussion of relationships. You both must conform to each other's schedules and likes and dislikes. And that is fine until it becomes work. You shouldn't have to constantly be conforming to the others demands.
If one person is not willing to compromise for the other, then they probably aren't worth your time and effort
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