The Spectrum

Issue date: 10/6/05 Section: He Said/She Said

Conversation is very important on the first date and shouldn't be planned. However if you must plan it, then here are my suggestions. First, we have to make a few assumptions. You already know the basics about this person, name, address, interests, maybe a few friends and family. 1. How are you doing tonight? This question is obvious; if you can't ask this one then just go home. Ask her about her day, her week, anything of that nature. Girls like to know that you care about their life, even if you don't just ask and try to listen. 2. What would you like to do tonight is a great starting question after number one. Guys, do not go into a date without anything planned. Maybe suggest a play, dinner, movie or ride on a gondola, whatever you want. 3-5. For the last three first start with 1 and 2, then at dinner or wherever ask what she likes to do in her spare time, and no matter what she says show interest in it.

Second ask, what her favorite bar, club, or restaurant is, and say you would love to go there with her sometime. This will show you have lots in common and hopefully lead her to ask you questions. Lastly, number 5 is up to you. For those guys out there who don't have "game" (ability to create conversation and prove you are interested in her life), stay away from asking about old boyfriends, sexual topics, controversial issues, and please do not talk about the weather or politics. Good Luck!

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