2008 Woodie Awards
He Said: Can we be friends?.... Shifting from partnership to friendship
Robert Roy “He Said” Columnist
Issue date: 9/29/05 Section: He Said/She Said
Traditionally staying close friends after ending a significant relationship has been understandingly difficult. When a relationship comes to an end each person always promises to stay friends but let's not kid anyone here, this is almost never successful.
There is always that awkward period where you still are jealous and do not want the other person to be with anyone else. Then you go through the period where you believe that you cannot live without them and try to get back together. More times then not this is the end of the line.
When the second attempt at a relationship fails, friendship is not an option. You cannot stand the thought of them with someone else. There is fighting as one person cannot handle being just friends. In this situation there is that uncomfortable and embarrassing situation when one person crosses the line of "friends." The other person is forced to end the idea of trying to be friends.
As time passes the two people will talk from time to time but there is never a significant friendship created, thus friends after being a couple more times then not, will fail. Now I know that this situation isn't what happens a hundred percent of the time. There are those few exceptions when the two people are able to get over themselves and become friends.
There is always that awkward period where you still are jealous and do not want the other person to be with anyone else. Then you go through the period where you believe that you cannot live without them and try to get back together. More times then not this is the end of the line.
When the second attempt at a relationship fails, friendship is not an option. You cannot stand the thought of them with someone else. There is fighting as one person cannot handle being just friends. In this situation there is that uncomfortable and embarrassing situation when one person crosses the line of "friends." The other person is forced to end the idea of trying to be friends.
As time passes the two people will talk from time to time but there is never a significant friendship created, thus friends after being a couple more times then not, will fail. Now I know that this situation isn't what happens a hundred percent of the time. There are those few exceptions when the two people are able to get over themselves and become friends.