The Spectrum

Issue date: 9/22/05 Section: He Said/She Said

This is an obvious answer isn't it? Most people would say physical attraction. When you question their motives, they will simply retort with arguments about how that is the first thing you notice. They will support it with the idea that having a huge sexual attraction will maintain that "spark" in the relationship. Yes that is great, the spark is important, however compatible personalities will give you a much more healthy and meaningful relationship.

These qualities will become evident as time passes in your relationship. Once you sit and actually have a deep conversation with your significant other you will know if you have compatible personalities. If you want a quick, relationship that lasts no more then a few weeks then by all means go for the looks, but if you want a significant, committed relationship then find some who you can relate to and have more then just sexual attraction.

If you can find a combination of both of these, however, you will have the ability to grow and nurture a strong, lasting relationship. When you look at your significant other and after three years he or she still takes your breath away and you can still sit and have a real conversation then you absolutely have something special...do not ruin something that good.

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