2008 Woodie Awards
He Said: College Romances: Can They Survive the Summer?
Robert Roy “He Said” Columnist
Issue date: 4/28/05 Section: He Said... She Said...
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The school year has flown by and soon enough it will be summer. Over the past eight months you have created many lasting relationships and may have found that special someone. You see them everyday and are with them every night, now you begin to realize that you live in upstate New York and she lives five hours away in New Jersey. Can your relationship last throughout the summer?
Yes, you can make your relationship last, however it will depend on a few significant factors. First and foremost there is commitment and trust. How committed is your relationship and how much do you trust your significant other. If you cannot trust your boyfriend or girlfriend to be able to be apart for a few months then how will you ever trust him or her for the rest of your life? Nevertheless, if you have a committed relationship and you both can last through the summer then that is a great testament to both of you.
The distance and infrequency of seeing each other is what will make the summer difficult. If both people can agree to share the driving responsibility it will help to make the distance easier. Also, both need to show their maturity and adjust to not seeing each other every day. These are too key factors to surviving the summer; focus on traveling and adjusting to change will improve the chances of your relationship to endure.
Lastly, avoid high school flings or past boyfriends and girlfriends. The infrequency of seeing each other will make both people restless. The best way to deter cheating is to avoid any situation that makes it possible. If you must hangout with someone like that as a friend do it in a group to avoid tension. Avoiding the situation is the best way to ensure fidelity. Throughout the summer put yourself in the other person's shoes. Avoid situations that will increase the chances of unfaithfulness. Lastly, find a way to spend time with your significant other and your relationship will survive the summer.