The Non-Sexiest Child Bearing discussion was a way for Professor June-Anne Greeley, Professor Cristal Manning and the Director of Women's Studies, Jennifer McLaughlin along with Professor Bowman of the Psychology Department to present how to raise and educate our children in this society, which is supposed to be more open than years ago.

"How do we raise our children in this Feminist Era?" said Greeley.

The gender role is very important; both the man and the woman should have a hand in raising our children.

Biological, cultural and social aspects were taken in consideration as well as family influence in terms of how our children behave in this society.

A fifty-year-old man was raised differently from a twenty-five year old man; years ago, men wouldn't do the cooking or the cleaning. However, nowadays, the things are a little different; a man may not be expected to clean up the house, but neither a woman. Gender roles have changed; the line has been gradually deteriorating.

In fact, a marriage should be a contract in which both partners should share and distribute their duties in relation with children.

"I don't want my children to be raised thinking that a woman should do the cooking," said Manning.

Biologically, male and females are different; we are biologically determined. "We are set up to do things differently, but that doesn't mean that is better or worse," said Bowman.

However, socialization plays an important role when it comes to our children's education and behavior.

As Manning said, she didn't push her daughter to wear certain clothes or play with certain toys.

Later, Greeley pointed out how media has the power to influence our children in many ways. "Perhaps our roles are influenced by media," she said.

"As a single parent with two boys, I did not create a gender environment," said Davis.

"I am convinced that biological or sociological influence is much stronger than family," she said.

The biology identifies male and female, but society has much more power or effect on what male/female roles are.

McLaughlin, mother of a boy and a girl, talked about how her daughter is the typical girly girl; her daughter didn't learn that from her; "the way children act is something that they learn outside," said McLaughlin.

Most agreed that family may have an impact on children at first, but it's society that has that power. The cultural aspect is more important; children are influenced by the things they see and hear in the outside world.

Girls supposed to wear pink and play with dolls and boys are supposed to wear other color except pink and play with trucks or blocks. These are the stereotyped male/ female roles; however, the nowadays reality is totally different, and this is because the media and our culture are teaching us that this doesn't have to be necessarily this way.

There is nothing wrong with a girl playing with trucks or a boy wearing a pink t-shirt. This is also very much about maturity. When children grow up, they decide what they want to do.

On the other hand, an important issue is also in the air. Who takes care if the children? The mothers used to be the ones who were in charge of that issue. Nowadays, the roles have partially changed. Both partners decide what is better for their children and who should take care of them. Now, women have the choice to choose between go to work or stay at home and take care of the children.

In addition to this, men's role has also changed; in general they help out with the children. Indeed, some of them they don't expect the woman to do the entire job such as be home and get dinner ready.

Bringing children to daycare is another issue that is being discussed. Daycare has certain negatives aspects but also positive aspects because children learn how to behave in the outside world since they are very little. "They are ready to go when they need to," said Bowman.

This depends also on the family. Some families are still very conservative with a strong belief on traditional role models.

Some people have the choice to decide their own roles so that they can find their comfort level. This makes a difference in the development of you.

Some mothers would stop working to take care of their children but they eventually would go back to work. As Manning said, "I needed to go back to work after six months taking care of my daughter."

No matter what the decision is in terms of who takes care of the children, the important thing is that nowadays women have the right to choose if they wants to stay at home and take care of the children and the house or go to work and split their time doing both things. Besides, the male role has also changed, so this has become very helpful for women as well. A non-sexiest child bearing is the key to educate our children in the right direction.